No fair blaming Ryan for your own faults in that marriage, Tenley. Those of us who knew you as a couple know that he didn’t cheat on you. Shame on you for allowing his character to be ripped apart.

Put another way: the Ten Commandments speak about not bearing false witness against your neighbor. Martin Luther defined “false witness” not just as a deliberate lie, but also any statement presented as truth, but without any proven evidence. Ryan didn’t cheat. You just think he did. By spreading your version of the facts without any real evidence, you’re bearing false witness. You call yourself a Christian–apologize to Ryan, publicly. Stop spreading gossip about him just because you’re hurting.